11 Steps Women Should Take When Preparing for Divorce

Written by Alp Atabek, AIF® | Jun 5, 2023 1:49:00 PM

Divorce is never an easy process and can be particularly difficult when it comes to managing the financial aspects. For women, the financial burden of divorce can be incredibly overwhelming, so it is important to take proactive steps to protect your finances during this time. Here are 11 key steps women should take when preparing for a divorce: 

 

1. Make copies of all financial documents

Before starting the divorce process, gather detailed information about all relevant finances, such as bank accounts, investments, retirement accounts, mortgages, and credit cards. Make copies of each document so you have a complete record of your current financial situation. 
 

2. Create a budget

A budget will help you plan how you’ll manage your money throughout the divorce process and into the future. List all sources of income, including any alimony or child support payments that may come in after the legal proceedings are finalized. Also include monthly expenses like rent and bills along with occasional costs like vacations and holidays. With a clear picture of your financial health in mind, you’ll be better prepared for negotiating with your partner during mediation or in court. 
 

3. Open separate accounts

To avoid confusion in tracking expenses, open new bank accounts under your name only and transfer funds from joint accounts as needed for regular expenses (e.g., mortgage payments). This will also ensure that you have access to money if needed without any interference from your former spouse or their lawyer during negotiations. If possible, try to pay off all joint debts before finalizing the divorce so that both parties will no longer be responsible for them going forward. 
 

4. Reassess insurance coverage

Once you’re separated or divorced, it’s important to make sure that each party has adequate insurance coverage—including health insurance—in case one spouse becomes ill or experiences an injury after the split is finalized. Consider taking out additional life insurance policies if necessary to provide protection for both yourself and any children involved in the divorce proceedings moving forward. 
 

5. Update wills & trusts

If either party has set up trusts or wills prior to getting divorced, it’s essential to update them accordingly once the divorce is finalized; otherwise, assets may still go to a former spouse, even if you remarry later on down the line! It’s best practice to consult with an estate attorney who specializes in family law, so they can provide advice on whether changes need to be made legally following a major life change like a divorce settlement agreement being approved by court order. 
 

6. Research tax implications

Divorces often involve complex tax considerations, especially regarding property division. It might be beneficial for one partner to keep certain assets such as real estate investments rather than splitting them, depending on the individual tax situation. Additionally, alimony payments may often be deducted from taxable income while child support payments are typically not deductible. Be sure to investigate how these taxes could affect your current income levels and filing status before finalizing any agreements with an ex-spouse. 
 

7. Seek professional advice

Financial planners can provide invaluable guidance when it comes time to divide assets fairly between two parties who are divorcing – something which can become incredibly complicated when multiple savings plans, pension plans, retirement funds, or other investments exist between partners. Investing in reliable professionals who specialize in family law is essential, as they will be better able to handle nuanced legal matters that arise during this tumultuous period. 
 

8. Consider credit counseling

Credit counseling services offer expert help navigating through debt issues – from consolidation strategies on joint credit cards and managing individual debt responsibilities post-divorce to setting up payment plans that work for both parties – during a separation or divorce. Working closely with debt professionals not only reduces stress but also ensures that debts are taken care of properly before moving on with life after a marriage ends. 
 

9. Evaluate Social Security Benefits

The Social Security spousal benefits for divorced women are determined by the length of their marriage. If a woman was married to her ex-spouse for at least 10 years, she is eligible to receive up to half of her former husband’s Social Security retirement benefit amount. This benefit can be significant depending on how much the previous partner earned during his working life. For those who have been married for less than 10 years, any spousal benefits may be limited or unavailable. Additionally, for all divorces, the woman must have been unmarried for at least two consecutive years before collecting Social Security spousal benefits from a former spouse. It is important to consult a financial advisor before making decisions regarding Social Security to understand what options are available.

10. Set boundaries with communication

Communication breakdowns are common among couples who are divorcing – especially where finances are concerned – so it's important for each party involved to set good boundaries around how much contact there is between them regarding monetary decisions throughout this process. Setting ground rules at regular meetings (i.e., “no discussion about money unless prearranged”) can prevent unwanted confrontations that could further complicate things financially down the line if handled poorly by either side initially.
 

11. Stay organized

Document keeping is key when handling anything related to finance while going through a divorce. Make sure all relevant documents (including those pertaining specifically to alimony/spousal maintenance) are kept well organized and accessible throughout negotiations and maintain detailed records of all communication between former spouses and their attorneys regarding these topics as well. Doing this beforehand helps ensure smooth sailing and makes due diligence easier once everything has been settled legally.